I recently posted asking if anyone had any questions which might spur further blogs. Jenny sent me a long list of options (thanks!) so I will try to tackle a few week. If anyone else has questions, send them to me and I’ll try to answer as many as I can… :) Feel free to comment away, I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Do you consider “midget” to be the same as the N word and F*got? How do you feel about all of those words being used casually. Do you think it’s OK if it’s used in a joking manner with friends? If 5 average sized teenage friends tell “midget” jokes together at their house, do you think that’s OK?
Honestly, it totally depends on the tone. I don’t get angry immediately if someone with good-intentions is describing me as one–especially if they are older or they just don’t know. But that word does carry with it a lot of sting so it’s best not to use it. Roger Ebert tackles the topic gracefully and I really commend his thorough intent to understand it. That word has a loaded and hurtful history. Especially when used maliciously, the word does carry a lot of pain as it was used when I was teased as a little girl. I will admit I have used it jokingly myself with another little person–my friends and I sometimes lovingly call each other “midge” or something like that before–and other LP’s reciprocate. Still, I believe it’s one of those words you have to experience the pain of firsthand in order to be given the power to use it. That is why I do not use nor find it acceptable to use racial or homophobic slurs. No matter how many friends I have in those communities, I still have not experienced their pain firsthand so out of respect feel I have no rights to those words. Also, more often than not slurs are used to inflict pain and for that reason alone I would never want to even jokingly use a word that has been used to damage others.
Have you ever seen a LP act rudely/unfairly to an average size person and thought they were out of line? (Not personal, you seem like a great person – just a question) Do you ever feel you have a chip on your shoulder towards average sized people? (I communicated once with a LP online who was very rude to everybody, I felt the chip-on-shoulder attitude) do you think that’s common, is it something you catch yourself against doing?
Yes. Not cool. Golden rule here–treat others how you want to be treated. Chips on your shoulders don’t make you very pretty. Vulnerably speaking, we have all carried chips on our shoulders at one point or another and it is something easy to associate any slight to the blaring obvious LP-thing. I work through doing this in counseling and am one to try to always put my motives and assumptions in check. I ask myself the ‘chip on your shoulder’ question a lot so I am really always trying to keep myself aware that it is a great possibility. Luckily, I find others who have a joyful spirit about them most wonderful to be around so I try to remind myself of that a lot when I get down on myself for being different.